I literally just went through my date book and marked down days we will need to have sex. Now, tell me, what's hot about that? When I look at my book I feel like I just pimped myself out. Scheduling dates and times to have sex with the DH? Oh infertility, you are such a bitch. How dare you take the fun out of my love life!! I remember the days when sex was spontaneous. Now, I find myself looking forward to the 2WW; when we don't have to schedule times to have sex, or make love, or whatever you want to call it! My DH does too. I don't want it to sound like we hate having sex, or that it is a chore, because that is not the case. We have a very healthy and satisfying sexual relationship, but anyone who has tired as hard as we have to get pregnant knows that TI just really isn't all that fun. It doesn't matter if you had a bad day, feel tired, or bloated, you better take those big girl panties off and get busy! Time is ticking. That is what sucks about ovulation. Our eggs only last 12-24 hours, while those little swimmers can swim for up to 72 hours! Again. Men have it so easy. Well, my man has it so easy. Don't forget; there are cases in infertility that are solely related to male factor.
I won't lie; when we first started to try with fertility meds and TI, it was difficult. We were horrible at it! The stress of insemination would cause such tension and anxiety that it was nearly impossible for either one of us to enjoy anything; we couldn't even avoid or an argument. The pressure was so strong, there's no wonder we got a BFN on our first try! Since then, we have gotten much better! I try to make it as spontaneous as I can, and make it seem as little an appointment as possible. TI is much easier than it used to be, but yes, it still sucks and we still look forward to the END of ovulation.
So, ya, I 've got the BD schedule down. I figure we need to BD every other day starting on CD 10 and then as soon as I get a (+) OPK we will BD for the following 3 days, then every other day until CD 21-22. In case I ovulate late, I want to make sure we are covered. Like I have said before; there is a difference between "Let's hope get it" and "Lets make sure we don't miss it". Someone once told me "Hope is not a strategy"; in this sense, I agree.
For those that are with me in this IF journey- do you have little tricks you do during TI? Meaning: Do you use pillows to prop up the hips, use Instead SoftCups, Preseed? These are all things I have heard people do. We tried Preseed once. My DH was not a fan.