Here is her email...
I saw your post inviting people to guest post and I'd love to be considered. We've been through 3 failed medicated IUIs and now we're trying to decide whether to do a 4th or move on to IVF. I have hesitations regarding IVF and it scares me for many reasons.
I also wanted to tell you how much I appreciated your recent post about adoption and knowing your limits. I've looked at available children to adopt online and I felt like such a horrible person for not wanting to adopt an older child or special needs child. Your post is the first post I've ever read that addressed that, and I admire your courage in writing that.
I have a blog about faith and school librarianship (I'm a school librarian). Obviously, it's nothing to do with infertility, but you can get an idea of my writing style. www.DeepLibrarian.com
Thanks again for your blog. It has been a tremendous help to me this past year. I wish you continued success
Last week, Lisa emailed her post over and I loved it; I knew right away that it was something I wanted to share with all of you! I found both her thoughts and writing style to be fitting for my blog and I felt that we shared similar views. The first line in the third paragraph completely hit home for me because I have had that same thought, so many times...
Faith & Ethical Decisions
I’m a Christian and I believe God promises me good things, but I don’t believe that means he promises me a baby.
I also believe that God can bring about healing and miracles through medical intervention. I’m so thankful that we live in a time when we have options. My heart breaks for the millions of infertile women throughout history who didn’t have the options and hope we have due to medicine and technology.
But because I believe in God, I don’t want to start playing God. Every step I’ve taken in my journey on fertility has been preceded by prayer and serious thought. I know that many other infertile women who share my faith have given similar consideration to their decisions. And women of other faiths (or no faith) undoubtedly seek to make ethically-sound decisions based on their individual morality and conscience.
Most people believe that is sacred, and there’s something magical and mysterious about creating life. I think we all realize this on some level, and none of us take our treatment decisions lightly. So I get extremely frustrated at people who pass judgment on those who are pursuing aggressive treatment.
This past week I read an article that condemned IUI, IVF, and gestational carriers as unethical. First of all, it pissed me off that those three treatments were lumped together as the same thing. It pissed me off that someone who has never been through infertility wrote the article. And it pissed me off that people some people have been guilted into forgoing treatment.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not advocating a fertility free-for-all. It looks like we’re headed towards IVF, and I plan on weighing all of our options in regards to how many (if any) embryos we freeze and how many we transfer. These are INTENSELY personal decisions which my husband and I will make after a lot of prayer and research. While I may come to different conclusions than other people, we can still respect their decisions if they too are seeking to pursue treatment in an ethical way.
But it took me a long time to discover that I can do IVF in a way that allows me to keep my Christian convictions. Most of what I found regarding IVF and faith was filled with rhetoric, guilt, fear, and verbiage designed to sway the reader into choosing treatment the author approved. What I wanted was a resource that would help me understand the ethical issues, dig into what the Bible says (and what it doesn’t say), and then make my own prayerful decision.
I finally found this resource when I read The Infertility Companion: Hope and Help for Couples Facing Infertility by Sandra L. Glahn and William R. Cutler. It breaks down common infertility treatments and medications and help you examine the moral and ethical issues involved with each one.
Lisa blogs regularly about faith and school librarianship at DeepLibrarian.com. She also blogs occasionally about her infertility journey and creating a home at AmateurNester.