tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post757371467517612548..comments2023-04-16T06:40:40.346-07:00Comments on Where the *bleep* is our stork?: Guest Blogger: The Other Womanwherethebleepisourstorkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-51866408903519261422013-09-21T22:42:01.745-07:002013-09-21T22:42:01.745-07:00If it is crappy and distasteful to post this on an...If it is crappy and distasteful to post this on an infertility blog, I can't imagine what's she thinks of my childfree one! Lol. Princess Peachnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-68976534967255747592013-09-21T10:14:22.621-07:002013-09-21T10:14:22.621-07:00*that being "said"*that being "said" Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04729082832260114793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-5171192712578013522013-09-21T10:13:22.178-07:002013-09-21T10:13:22.178-07:00Don't apologize. I loved your post and so did ...Don't apologize. I loved your post and so did many others! Thank you for sharing!!wherethebleepisourstorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-2470747490378143722013-09-21T10:12:49.799-07:002013-09-21T10:12:49.799-07:00Anonymous- I shared this post because of the raw h...Anonymous- I shared this post because of the raw honesty. I think what this did was courageous! I appreciate her honesty- since that is what my blog is all about- being honest. I know this writer personally and I want to support her no matter what her past was like. The past is just that--- the past. I won't apologize for having this type of post on MY blog. But, thanks so much for stopping by! Best to you!wherethebleepisourstorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-12552808159659102422013-09-21T10:06:42.417-07:002013-09-21T10:06:42.417-07:00I'm sorry that you found it distasteful, Anony...I'm sorry that you found it distasteful, Anonymous. I am sensitive to the fact that what comes so easy for some is so heartbreaking for others. Teresa is a friend of mine and watching her struggle has made me more aware to be thankful for what I have. This post came out of the feelings I had when telling her I was planning this, knowing that if it happens for me, that it will hurt her and those are completely legitimate feelings for her to have. That being sad, I don't think of it as "failures" as my youth, everything has built on who I am today. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04729082832260114793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-86619840396707064902013-09-21T00:03:49.495-07:002013-09-21T00:03:49.495-07:00Sorry. I think it's crappy to put a post like...Sorry. I think it's crappy to put a post like this on this particular blog. I find it distasteful. I doubt I am the only one. That said, I hope your surgery goes well and I am glad you learned from the failures of your youth. I wish more people would.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-36536022026418744912013-09-06T10:04:51.757-07:002013-09-06T10:04:51.757-07:00I share the same sentiments as many before me. I d...I share the same sentiments as many before me. I don't think you are selfish or greedy in the least. We all make mistakes or have indiscresions when we are younger. As we grow older the world and our views change. I wish you nothing but the best. I hope your husband and you are blessed beyond beleif with a little one. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03257674420881990140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-90842375772625758982013-09-02T18:57:53.650-07:002013-09-02T18:57:53.650-07:00thank you, I totally get that I can't understa...thank you, I totally get that I can't understand the depth of what you're going through. I think we can only imagine the pain others are in when they are going through things we haven't experienced. From the small taste of what I'm going through, ("some" of the heartache)I know it must be devastating. It's not fair that it's so easy for some and so difficult for others. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-26647855972989963762013-09-01T06:08:27.051-07:002013-09-01T06:08:27.051-07:00I'm going to agree that I don't think this...I'm going to agree that I don't think this is selfish or greedy. I always think of that saying" "If I had known better, I would have done better." We have to make the best decisions we can with what we have at that time. Your life took a turn, a positive one, and you are embarking on a new and wonderful journey with a good man and the blessings of medical technology on your side to potentially make it possible. That's fantastic! And what really sticks out for me here is that you have given your adult children the breathing room to make their own way instead of pressuring them for children because it's something you want; so many parents do that, and it's commendable that you have taken responsibility for becoming the author of your own happiness. <br /><br />But I am going to go out on a limb and ask you to reconsider whether you really "understand some of the heartache" because, honestly, you couldn't possibly. I appreciate the empathy, sincerely, but you have biological children. You have not experienced the trauma of miscarriage or IVF failure. You haven't weathered the devastation of diagnosis or poor prognosis. You have a teensy taste of the fear, and I can identify with that piece; it's awful, so I'm sorry you're feeling that. But for me it's almost an earn your stripes situation. I remember, way back in the beginning when I thought this hurt and was scary: I had no idea how bad it could get. I hope, and I mean this with all sincerity, that good fortune smiles on you and you never have to go through the experiences that would enable you to truly "understand." Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-73175406963256319552013-08-31T17:40:10.915-07:002013-08-31T17:40:10.915-07:00I echo the sentiments of everyone else - you'r...I echo the sentiments of everyone else - you're not selfish. If anything, your decision is the exact opposite. You're attempting to give your boyfriend the one thing he obviously wants SO much. Likewise, I often think being a mom is one of the most selfless roles. The fact that you're willing to go through the emotional and physical ups and downs for the chance at being a mom again speaks volumes. I wish you the best of luck!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-3437440638538418542013-08-31T08:40:26.113-07:002013-08-31T08:40:26.113-07:00You are most definitely not selfish or greedy. You...You are most definitely not selfish or greedy. You are simply at a different place in your life right now! Your children are already (mostly) grown and you've finally met the man you plan to spend the rest of your life with. Most of us are not exactly the same person we were 5 years ago, let alone 15 or 20 years ago. It's natural to want different things at this point, and better to figure that out now before its too late! Good luck!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-14363897030782860222013-08-30T20:47:33.103-07:002013-08-30T20:47:33.103-07:00"So, I told him I changed my mind. The huge g..."So, I told him I changed my mind. The huge grin and the tearing up of his eyes confirmed that this is our path. "<br /><br />I really loved this part. It made me tear up. This is going to sound weird, but knowing that a man wants to be a Dad so bad is so sweet... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-50097053752293833502013-08-30T19:27:39.214-07:002013-08-30T19:27:39.214-07:00It's refreshing that you took the time to ackn...It's refreshing that you took the time to acknowledge all of us infertiles. Thanks for your honesty... it's appreciated more than you know. Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06108451473506718750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-88089524541218785792013-08-30T11:46:36.222-07:002013-08-30T11:46:36.222-07:00Not selfish at all... just a beautiful statement a...Not selfish at all... just a beautiful statement about the unpredictability of life. Best wishes...Catwoman73http://www.twoadultsonechild.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-77774695675168849802013-08-30T08:52:00.944-07:002013-08-30T08:52:00.944-07:00Not selfish at all! We all change our minds about...Not selfish at all! We all change our minds about things, and this is your path, no judgements. Thank you for sharing!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17199324961244085710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-82723143952476767082013-08-30T08:28:35.761-07:002013-08-30T08:28:35.761-07:00Wow, what a great post. You most certainly are not...Wow, what a great post. You most certainly are not selfish, and I wish you all the best for your reversal! What an interesting story. I wish you and your husband the best and that a little baby comes out of this!Risahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01134469272401945848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-67931460565738577372013-08-30T06:05:35.519-07:002013-08-30T06:05:35.519-07:00I don't think it is selfish at all. I know I f...I don't think it is selfish at all. I know I for sure wish I would have made different decisions in my younger days and there is nothing I can do about that now. I just try to make the right choices now and continue to pray for us to have a baby one of these days :) Good luck to you on your path to having a child together and thank you for sharing your story.Amiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04738442092989090297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-42595030799099772642013-08-30T05:45:33.809-07:002013-08-30T05:45:33.809-07:00Best of luck to you and kudos to you for your hone...Best of luck to you and kudos to you for your honesty. Not all stories of infertility are alike and each new one opens our minds and hearts. I wish you all the luck in the world to have that baby you and your new husband now want! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01922083230051178843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-63761048048807757992013-08-30T04:28:54.699-07:002013-08-30T04:28:54.699-07:00Totally unselfish! Even in our darkest moments, in...Totally unselfish! Even in our darkest moments, infertile women aren't asking fertile women not to have kids… that's just crazy. If infertility hadn't intersected my life at the ripe old age of 25, I would have gone on to have 5 kids… at least that was the plan. I wouldn't have been selfish for doing so; I would simply have lived my life the way I dreamed and planned. I think all the infertile woman ever asks of the fertile woman is this: recognize that you are blessed. <br />Good luck with your surgery! Wishing you the very best!<br />Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11657607481465480125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-35596095888045055202013-08-29T23:22:55.480-07:002013-08-29T23:22:55.480-07:00I am an infertile woman and an abortion provider. ...I am an infertile woman and an abortion provider. I know for many their fertility is a burden, and I've seen many cases where it feels it's just as unfair. Thanks for sharing your story, and know we don't hate you. Annoyed at the Universe, yes. Life handles us all different types of challenges and struggles, it's all about his you manage them. You must be so proud of your children and I'm so happy that you found what sounds like the love of your life. Best wishes to you both! jAllenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06282963869813954232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-78240148322449874032013-08-29T19:46:45.411-07:002013-08-29T19:46:45.411-07:00I don't think it is selfish in any way either....I don't think it is selfish in any way either. Life happens. I wish you the best of luck. Keep us updated if possible. I would like to know how it goes. Heather S. @ I Should B ...https://www.blogger.com/profile/07169449468601102414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-79532348240204948962013-08-29T19:39:58.825-07:002013-08-29T19:39:58.825-07:00thank you for all the good thoughts & positive...thank you for all the good thoughts & positive feedback on my post :) as an update, we just learned today that pending the SA, the reversal surgery is scheduled for Sept 26thAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-58883953874595670052013-08-29T18:43:09.727-07:002013-08-29T18:43:09.727-07:00Great comment Aislinn, couldn't have said it b...Great comment Aislinn, couldn't have said it better myself!Gypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-58793429984223508072013-08-29T17:32:25.360-07:002013-08-29T17:32:25.360-07:00I don't think you are selfish at all. Everyon...I don't think you are selfish at all. Everyone is different, they make their decisions based on how they feel at the time and there is nothing wrong with that. I actually find your honesty very refreshing if I am honest and I wish you luck on your journey :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-73189347463220004442013-08-29T17:24:12.916-07:002013-08-29T17:24:12.916-07:00I wish you all the luck in the world in following ...I wish you all the luck in the world in following your dream. I haven't had a child yet, but I completely get how not being able to have any wanted child is deeply painful. Good luck!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com