tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post2784274258101332337..comments2023-04-16T06:40:40.346-07:00Comments on Where the *bleep* is our stork?: Knowing What Love Iswherethebleepisourstorkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-36311211395172276742014-07-14T08:53:01.044-07:002014-07-14T08:53:01.044-07:00Your method of explaining the whole thing in this ...Your method of explaining the whole thing in this <br />post is really fastidious, every one can easily know it, Thanks a lot.<br /><br /><br /><br />Here is my blog post: <a href="http://www.cosmopolitan.com/advice/health/how-to-lose-belly-fat" rel="nofollow">shed weight</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-1526752699047449032014-04-25T23:02:51.449-07:002014-04-25T23:02:51.449-07:00I am offended by that post both as an IFer and a l...I am offended by that post both as an IFer and a loss mom. "Rather die than live without it." Yes. My child died and I am still living. Still mourning him. But I hate when people say that if they lost a child that they would die. It minimizes my pain and my grief. I do not love my child any less than they love theirs because I am surviving his death. <br /><br />And I think the anonymous comments above are rediculous. This is a wonderful post. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-24771167716526970422014-04-25T21:57:20.754-07:002014-04-25T21:57:20.754-07:00Oh, no! I know that you didn't mean wrong! I a...Oh, no! I know that you didn't mean wrong! I appreciate your words!wherethebleepisourstorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-21109045570200728002014-04-25T21:40:20.455-07:002014-04-25T21:40:20.455-07:00I didn't mean to imply you didn't. I meant...I didn't mean to imply you didn't. I meant more like you said: the bond. I'm sorry if that didn't come across.Anhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12466386185394028783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-54451736523792892202014-04-25T21:14:18.408-07:002014-04-25T21:14:18.408-07:00Thanks! Yeah, as I stated.. I was unsure of her w...Thanks! Yeah, as I stated.. I was unsure of her whole story -or - the story behind the post. I only got that screen shot- as my sister and I were discussing that exact topic (knowing what love is) a few week earlier and how some people think we will never know love because we don't have kids. I was only using that passage to bring out my thoughts. I didn't and don't plan on Googling her blog. wherethebleepisourstorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-20270527296329967152014-04-25T20:23:43.305-07:002014-04-25T20:23:43.305-07:00I googled the original quote and found the actual ...I googled the original quote and found the actual post. I guess I think by highlighting just that one passage takes it a little out of context. The post is more about not feeling like a mother should have to apologize for the "overzealousness" others may feel she shows when talking about her love for her children. However, I still found the whole post obnoxious and arrogant. Love your post though. :)Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17961296047588934823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-78690643056275335492014-04-25T16:02:03.466-07:002014-04-25T16:02:03.466-07:00Interesting how all of the comments disagreeing wi...Interesting how all of the comments disagreeing with you are posted anonymously...<br /><br />I have to say I love this post. I dislike that others are trying to tell you that you are wrong....I would be interested to find out how they can be so confident that they know how YOU experience love. Because we all experience it differently, and this post is about how YOU experience love for the people in YOUR life.<br /><br />I find that, because I've experienced loss (like so many of us), I love the things in my life a little more deeply than before I'd had a miscarriage. It deepened my love for everyone, including (and sometimes, especially) my pets. The love I feel for each of the people/animals in my life is absolutely different, but the depth of my love for them is universal. I love them all with every cell in my body...it doesn't get much deeper than that. I have experienced some of my most wonderful moments with my beautiful nephews, who I would do anything for. Anything, even die, for. I can't imagine loving my own child any more deeply than I love them, or my husband. Sure, perhaps I can't predict how it will feel, but perhaps I can too. Only I know how I love, and only you know how you love.<br /><br />I love that the heart of your post is that, despite the preconception that infertiles are lonely and sad, we DO know love. We know some of the deepest and most wonderful love. A love that stays strong even through battle, and loss, and failure...when you feel like all you have is each other. That's a sweet, sweet, love. Or the love you have for the child who hugs and kisses and loves on you, even when your heart is breaking. Who fulfills that ache in your heart for a child of your own. The one who you treasure a little more because you aren't sure you'll ever get to experience first steps, and first words with your own child. <br /><br />So, while I can't determine how deep the love you have for the people in your life is, or the depth of the love those commenters have for their families, I can definitely say that the depth I have for the people and pets in my life is incredibly deep, and even if I never get to love a child of my own, my heart is very, very, very full of the deepest, sweetest love I could ever imagine. And I don't need anyone to feel sorry for me, or tell me what they think I'm missing, because I am loved and I do love. All the time. Every single day.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this post!Rachelhttp://www.positive-peach.blogspot.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-48725244028220657912014-04-25T13:04:48.340-07:002014-04-25T13:04:48.340-07:00I guess it is the right of the blogger to put thei...I guess it is the right of the blogger to put their thoughts out there. It certainly doesn't mean they are right. Love comes in so many forms that it is surely something we can all experience. KathyPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07825812004240603167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-53775589156266030282014-04-25T09:26:40.789-07:002014-04-25T09:26:40.789-07:00And one last thought, because I've just been r...And one last thought, because I've just been reading a bunch of books about foster care: <br /><br />Not every parent is able to love a child in the way those images describe. I do believe that parenthood brings out the deepest, fiercest love in many people -- but it's not something the child automatically brings WITH him/her into the parent's life (or there would be no abused or neglected kids). It's something a child can bring OUT OF a healthy parent, which means that of course that adult has to be capable of love in the first place, before the child arrives.<br /><br />So please don't tell childless/childfree people "You haven't known love."Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11562773887208347158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-55077057809313566432014-04-25T09:00:18.873-07:002014-04-25T09:00:18.873-07:00What strikes me about the blog post in your screen...What strikes me about the blog post in your screenshot is how -- while it talks a lot about love -- it doesn't actually CONVEY a loving attitude to me. <br /><br />"I am so so sorry for your soul"? That's pity. "You are ... deficient"? That comes across to me (and probably more so to your sister, who doesn't even want or miss having children) as scorn masquerading as concern. Why else address a letter to random women who are minding their own business, not asking to be clucked and worried over?<br /><br />Even the words about how love of a child "cures all" and "is a lifeblood" disturb me a bit. I mean, I can absolutely imagine being willing to die for my child -- and yes, I have loved other people that much -- but those other statements sound like depending on my child to make my own life worth living. That's quite a burden to place on a chlid.<br /><br />Of course, I could be totally off base. I have no idea what that woman actually felt and thought when she wrote those words; I just know how the words affected me.Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11562773887208347158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-59749226366142167712014-04-25T08:09:42.631-07:002014-04-25T08:09:42.631-07:00I have been a mother now for over two years, havin...I have been a mother now for over two years, having given birth to twin boys after years of infertility two months shy of my 41st birthday. Do I love my sons? Absolutely. <br /><br />Would I say I never knew love before I had them? Absolutely not.<br /><br />IMO, anyone who thinks she "never knew love" before she was a mother has either led a very sad life or is quite a shallow person. Before loving my son, I had known what it was to love. I loved my parents, my sister, my husband (and yes, before him, other men), and close friends. I have loved other children, included a beloved nephew. I have even loved dogs.<br /><br />My love for my sons is different than the love I felt for the others I described above. . . but isn't each love we experience for another different?<br /><br />So yes, dear blogger and dear readers who are not-yet-mothers and may-never-be-mothers: even if you do not have children, I hope that you have known love, and I believe that if you have not, you will. :-)<br /><br />Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-15272683139541415892014-04-25T08:08:19.667-07:002014-04-25T08:08:19.667-07:00I have been a mother now for over two years, havin...I have been a mother now for over two years, having given birth to twin boys after years of infertility two months shy of my 41st birthday. Do I love my sons? Absolutely. <br /><br />Would I say I never knew love before I had them? Absolutely not.<br /><br />IMO, anyone who thinks she "never knew love" before she was a mother has either led a very sad life or is quite a shallow person. Before loving my son, I had known what it was to love. I loved my parents, my sister, my husband (and yes, before him, other men), and close friends. I have loved other children, included a beloved nephew. I have even loved dogs.<br /><br />My love for my sons is different than the love I felt for the others I described above. . . but isn't each love we experience for another different?<br /><br />So yes, dear blogger and dear readers who are not-yet-mothers and may-never-be-mothers: even if you do not have children, I hope that you have known love, and I believe that if you have not, you will. :-)<br /><br />Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-15218917124840670992014-04-24T23:58:12.609-07:002014-04-24T23:58:12.609-07:00Brilliant post! It hurts a lot when people post ho...Brilliant post! It hurts a lot when people post how a woman is missing out on the love for a child. Why do we even have to differentiate what kind of love we have felt - whether it's for our pets, spouses, parents, friends etc? Love is love. It is universal. It's a bond you share with the one you care about and nobody has the right to tell you your love is only so much in comparison to their love for their children. Who's to judge?! So thank you, Teresa for posting this. ♥<br /><br />Much love & appreciation from Singapore,<br />Zara Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-25224827668541695822014-04-24T18:50:00.554-07:002014-04-24T18:50:00.554-07:00Best blog post ever!!! You put into words the emot...Best blog post ever!!! You put into words the emotions my husband and I have felt for years. Those types of memes and comments are just as hurtful to him as they are to me…..thank you <3 Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-6047291780615961952014-04-24T07:40:03.461-07:002014-04-24T07:40:03.461-07:00My point is this-- I may not have felt a mother...My point is this-- I may not have felt a mother's love... but I HAVE FELT LOVE. The graphic doesn't say... "You haven't felt a mother's love" it says "You haven't felt LOVE". I call... BS! wherethebleepisourstorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-86927690622922743572014-04-24T00:11:46.676-07:002014-04-24T00:11:46.676-07:00That's fine to think so, but I dare say that y...That's fine to think so, but I dare say that you will be eating crow one day. I doubt any mother would say they love their dog the same way they love their kid. I love my dogs - but I wouldn't die for them. And when they die I will be sad but my soul would not be crushed as it would if the unthinkable happened to my child. I hope to outlive my dog, I pray that my children outlive me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-63975860844008227862014-04-23T15:31:27.858-07:002014-04-23T15:31:27.858-07:00I find it comical that some mother's are tryin...I find it comical that some mother's are trying to tell us we don't know what that love is like... until we've had kids. I agree- the bond is something I won't have until I have my own baby.... but the love.... well, that I know. And I know the pain staking kind of love mother's talk about. I think it is selfish to say otherwise. People can't tell me what or how I feel.wherethebleepisourstorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-47877280962742355892014-04-23T15:29:26.107-07:002014-04-23T15:29:26.107-07:00Thanks, Sara for sharing your view; I appreciate i...Thanks, Sara for sharing your view; I appreciate it.<br />I still refuse to believe that I may go on living without feeling "that" love. Because I believe that I have. I do. And I will. Yes, the bond is something I may have not experienced- but I know love; and quite possibly the same love you have for your kid(s). <br />wherethebleepisourstorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-42193444354297195672014-04-23T13:47:00.567-07:002014-04-23T13:47:00.567-07:00I think that a mother's love for her child is ...I think that a mother's love for her child is very different than any others. It is not comparable to your love of your dog or her husband or nieces/nephews. That doesn't mean that you don't have love, or can't know love, you most certainly do, but it is not the same. There is a different level to it and its something you can't know until you've been there.<br />~SaraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-87840231990312270672014-04-23T06:05:01.009-07:002014-04-23T06:05:01.009-07:00INCREDIBLE POSTINCREDIBLE POSTChris and Candacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01424332697864950417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-5655316210095284582014-04-22T21:02:06.193-07:002014-04-22T21:02:06.193-07:00Posts like the one you're writing about and th...Posts like the one you're writing about and the graphic to the side ("Until you've....") have always annoyed me, even before I started trying to get pregnant. It just seemed so damn presumptuous to feel sorry for someone for having a different life (whether by choice or not) or to tell them that they're feelings aren't valid.<br /><br />Then, (while I have not had to fight the infertility battle) I lost my boy and they hurt me and made me angry. How dare someone tell me I didn't know what love is when I had my heart broken?<br /><br />And then all of sudden, not long after William's due date, before I got pregnant again, I realized that my life was full of love and those other people were clueless.<br /><br />I'm not even going to touch the first asshat comment.<br /><br />I am glad that you have all the love in your life that you do. I hope you do get to know a mother's love; not because I think you're life is incomplete without it, but because I know it's something you want to experience.Anhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12466386185394028783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-11971418819019046582014-04-22T18:02:00.769-07:002014-04-22T18:02:00.769-07:00I love your post and wish I could like it 10000x. ...I love your post and wish I could like it 10000x. I see stuff like this all the time on Facebook, Pinterest, etc. I find these to be judgmental. If I were child free by choice, does that mean I do not truly love my husband? Or my pets? Or my mother and father? No. So ridiculous. Love is love, no matter who is the object of your love. <br /><br />And my husband and I also call to check on our dog daily when we are on vacation and drop her off at his parents house :)andthewindscreamsmaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03775759431772006480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-1758329286272847112014-04-21T18:27:19.223-07:002014-04-21T18:27:19.223-07:00The love I have for my animals is no different tha...The love I have for my animals is no different than the love I have for my sisters. Call me crazy, but it is true. I still cry when I think of they dog I lost SEVEN years ago. wherethebleepisourstorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-85512317327820359772014-04-21T18:18:45.726-07:002014-04-21T18:18:45.726-07:00Thank you, Rachael! It make total, perfect, sense!...Thank you, Rachael! It make total, perfect, sense! wherethebleepisourstorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3248832077031519183.post-89484746837005503652014-04-21T18:17:19.232-07:002014-04-21T18:17:19.232-07:00Thank you, sweet friend! I love that last sentenc...Thank you, sweet friend! I love that last sentence!!wherethebleepisourstorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.com